Lesson 3 of 7 · 11 min

Asking Better Questions

The question decides the quality of the reading

Asking Better Questions

A muddy question gets a muddy reading. If you ask 'Will I get the job?', any card can be twisted into yes or no, and you'll twist it towards whichever you fear. Change the question and the same card suddenly becomes useful.

Why Yes/No And Prediction Questions Fall Flat

Yes/no questions throw away most of what a card offers. A detailed image gets squashed into one bit of information, and you'll usually read that bit through your hope or your fear. Prediction questions ('When will I meet someone?') have a similar problem: they hand away your agency and leave you waiting for an outcome instead of acting.

Questions about other people's private thoughts ('What does she really think of me?') are the third trap. You can't check the answer, so you can never learn whether your reading was right. Questions about yourself can be checked against your own experience — which is exactly what the Daily Draw Journal needs.

The Rewrite Formula

Most weak questions can be fixed with one move: put yourself at the centre and ask about what you can see, learn or do. 'Will I get the job?' becomes 'What can I do to give myself the best chance at this job?' or 'What do I need to know about this opportunity?'. 'Will he come back?' becomes 'What do I need to understand about this relationship ending?'.

Good questions start with 'what', 'how' or 'where', they're about now or the near future, and they're about you. Keep them short — one clear question per draw. If you have three questions, do three draws, or use a spread from Lesson 4.

  • ✦Will I…? → What can I do to…?
  • ✦Should I…? → What do I need to know before I decide about…?
  • ✦What does X think of me? → What do I need to understand about my part in this?
  • ✦When will…? → What is ready to begin, and what am I still holding back?

Questions Worth Keeping

Some questions are good enough to ask again and again. 'What do I need to see today?' is the classic daily draw. 'What am I not looking at?' is excellent when you feel stuck. 'What would love do here?' cuts through fear-based decisions. 'What is this situation teaching me?' turns a hard week into material.

Write your own list of five go-to questions in your journal. Repeating the same few questions over weeks is how you learn your deck's voice: you start to notice that certain cards keep coming up for certain kinds of question.

The practice · 10 minutes

Rewrite Three Questions

  1. 1Write down three questions you genuinely want answered right now. Don't censor them.
  2. 2Mark each one: is it yes/no, prediction, about someone else's mind, or open and about you?
  3. 3Rewrite every question that isn't open and about you, using the formula above.
  4. 4Choose the rewritten question that matters most and draw one card for it.
  5. 5Read it with the four layers from Lesson 2. Notice how much more there is to work with.
  6. 6Log it in the Daily Draw Journal with the rewritten question.

Coming back to it: Next time you catch yourself about to ask a yes/no question, stop and rewrite it before shuffling. After a week this becomes automatic, and that habit improves readings more than any spread.

Journal prompts

  • “What do I actually want to know underneath my question?”
  • “Which of my questions was really driven by fear?”
  • “My five go-to questions are…”

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Check Your Understanding

3 quick questions. Retake it any time.

1. Why are questions about another person's private thoughts a weak choice?

2. Which is the best rewrite of 'Will I get the job?'

3. What do strong questions usually start with?